Loving ‘Loving Day’ and…

…feeling inspired by all of the posts.

Yesterday was Loving Day, the anniversary of the historic court case that made interracial marriage legal. I saw so many wonderful posts from so many loving couples. It was so great to see love spreading across social media and not hate. It inspired me so much and lifted my soul. I can’t believe there was a time where interracial couples or same sex couples couldn’t marry. That seems so crazy to me and so backwards. Love is a wonderful thing and there should be more of it. It should be celebrated and lifted up, not shamed or put down. Love rarely looks like what you expect in any relationship and I love that. Keep spreading the love y’all and thank you for those who have fought, are fighting, and continue to fight for happiness and equality.

Charlotte’s Say On…

…the societal pressure on women today.

photo credit: indianwomenblog.org

Women face a lot of pressure from family and friends in all stages of life sadly. I was always told to get married before you’re an old maid, or have kids before you are too old, and well you should quit your job and stay home with your baby. I didn’t do what was expected but I did what was best for me and my family.

I didn’t quit my job even though many thought I would after my baby was born. I went back to work and plan on working my 30 years until retirement. Friends and fellow mom’s kept telling me that I might change my mind once I’m home with baby or when I have to send the baby to daycare. They kept telling me “how could you allow a stranger to raise your child?” I would always pause and think about this and even started to doubt myself four months after my baby was born. I thought was I not a good mom because I didn’t want to stay at home with my child 24/7?

After getting back into a healthy workout routine, I looked around one day and said no, I KNOW I’m doing the right thing by being a working mom. So many stay at home moms (SAHMs) keep telling me I don’t know what it is like to be a full-time mom and it’s harder than having a job. I just let them vent and I moved about my life. I asked one SAHM mom once well, what is your plan once the kids are in school? Will you go back to work? She replied no, why would I do that?

Being a mom has made me re-evaluate my priorities in life.  I decided the top things in my life are my marriage (spouse, myself and our health), my kid(s), my family and friends, and lastly my job (in order to have the means to live the lifestyle we want and to travel the world).

I’m not just a mom but I am so much more, I am a wife, a daughter, a friend, an individual, an athlete, a pet mom, a cook, etc. I didn’t let starting a family define who I am and that being ONLY a mom. I don’t like that the mom community forces you to choose a side of being a SAHM or a working-mom. Why can’t we all just be called a MOM, plus so many other things? It could be written Mom+

I know my child will be stronger and well-rounded because they have two working parents. Two parents that will be able to provide for them and show them the world. If that makes us BOTH selfish parents then I guess we are and that is okay with us. Why you ask? Because we decided our OWN path.

In today’s world I don’t see the need to RUSH everything. I don’t understand why people RUSH to get engaged and are in a RUSH to have kids and a RUSH to buy a house and etc. Why not slow down and enjoy life and do it YOUR WAY and SET YOUR OWN P(E)ACE. Make your own timeline and own path and NEVER apologize for it or let alone have people tell you to settle, don’t ever SETTLE.

This is the last post I have from Charlotte, but she may agree to write more for us if you show here some love in the comments section!