Two Truths…

…and no “lies”

I am a firm believer that two independent stories, thoughts, feelings etc can exist and both be true at the same time. A person’s experience is true – even if it is different then someone else’s. I don’t understand why more people don’t understand what seems to be a very simple concept. You can hear someone else’s truth without it making yours less valid. Also, don’t let anyone tell you your truth isn’t valid. For years, I let someone invalidate my truth and my experience for the survival of a relationship. I let someone gas light me into thinking I was crazy or not remembering correctly or that my ‘wrong’ feelings are my fault and him upsetting me was somehow my fault. Well fuck that. And I say don’t ever let anyone do that to you – especially in close relationships. My relationship now is full of trust and understanding – even in heated moments. I feel heard. I know he is absorbing it and my feelings are valid to him. I also know his feelings are valid and I need to hear him too. Then we can come to better understanding of what each other was thinking and feeling in that situation. this lesson was a big one to learn but it’s so amazing now having learned it.